Never marry a man who is diametrically opposed to your ideal Mr. Right because it would be a huge mistake. Consider being married to a man who believes you are unworthy of wonderful things, dislikes being seen with you, and regards you as nothing more than his wife. Isn’t it like the worst nightmare ever?
To be sure, judging people for bad, immoral behaviour is justified. So, even if you’ve been dating him for a long time, take some time before deciding to marry him and go through these 15 habits. If he has them, or the majority of them, reject him and close the case because once you read these habits, you will realise that the only thing you need to do with this guy is either get him jailed or get away from him.
Spending your entire life with someone who is not open-minded sounds like a nightmare. You don’t want to spend the rest of your life with someone who prevents you from doing normal things because he is afraid of things going wrong or has mistrust in you.
Such negativity can ruin your life and cause you to regret marrying him. It is preferable to dump such a man right away rather than later regretting it when he displays his narrow-mindedness and makes your life a living hell.
Didn’t the phrase “hates animals” make you feel a little blasphemous? Who on the planet despises animals? That is the answer; no one does. So, if he does not like animals for any reason, such as allergies, and forces you to choose between him and your pet, always choose your pet.
It’s fine not to like them, but literally wanting to be away from them because they’re animals demonstrates a profound lack of empathy. If you marry him, you will be living with a cruel human animal.
He Doesn’t Care About Relationship Rules:
He enjoys acting out, which is not a good sign. You tell him not to do something, and he does exactly that. That is not only disrespectful to you, but it also violates the relationship rules.
Every relationship has some ground rules that both partners must follow naturally, but if he goes off the line repeatedly without ever listening to your concerns about them, he is not worth marrying. Absolute disrespect should never be tolerated or tolerated again.
4. Breaks Promises:
A small mistake or a forgetful mind can be excused, and even a large promise broken once in a blue moon can be forgiven, but if the frequency of promise-breaking increases noticeably, it is time for some cleaning and washing.
If he vigorously nods while making promises and then easily breaks them days later, it is obvious that he is making a fool of you. That is not a good relationship, so reject the breaker and find a keeper.
Provides Secondary Treatment:
It becomes complicated when one of the two people is more invested in the relationship than the other. It starts to fall apart because, as Joey mentioned, it is all about giving, taking, sharing, and receiving. So, if you are the one giving your all to the relationship while he sleeps peacefully and does nothing, it means that you do not value him in the same way that he values you.
It’s pointless to pursue such a meaningless relationship, so don’t marry the guy who treats you second-class when you deserve to be first.
Isn’t prone to epiphanies:
A guy who believes that everything he does is completely correct and that his decisions can never be wrong needs to get a reality check. Forcing someone to change for you is cruel and should not be done.
However, a person must recognise his mistakes and be willing to change himself for the sake of goodness. If he never has any epiphanies and never doubts anything he does, his arrogance can be harmful to you as well.
I am sorry but I had more important things to do and you do not matter to me as much as you think you do.
End of story.
If he has more excuses than reasons, and they are all too absurd to be true, he is lying to you, and if not, he is simply too lazy to include you in everything. Such behaviour in the man you’re about to marry can and should be a turn-off.
Keeps the fights going:
Fights are good, even healthy, unless they last forever. It is perfectly acceptable to express your opinions in front of your partner, even if they contradict his own, and it is perfectly acceptable to have a discussion from two opposing points of view.
But if he never agrees to make a decision and refuses to let you keep your point of view, he is the problem. Both parties involved must respect each other’s differences. If he prefers the opposite and keeps the fights going, you should leave.
He is a fantastic talker, but when it comes to you telling a story or sharing something, he cuts you down as if it doesn’t matter. He is the one who ends conversations.
Not only do these habits demonstrate a lack of conversation skills, but they also demonstrate your insignificance in his eyes, how your turn is unimportant, and how he is better off without you pitching in on something. You don’t want to be ignored like that for the rest of your life, so never marry such a conversation killer.
Small lies, cute lies, and insignificant lies told for good are excusable and even justifiable, but lies that affect your relationship and are repeated need to be addressed. If not the lies, the liar must be confronted.
Relationships are built on trust and mutual belief. If he takes that away by breaking the code of trust in one another, he must be replaced. Lies eat away at a relationship like termites do to wood.
If we wanted someone to rely on us 24 hours a day, we’d all go on a date with a child. When men cling to us for longer periods of time than usual, it indicates that they either have insecurity issues or do not trust you with your actions. Clingy partners should be avoided!
A mature relationship requires two independent people who can tolerate being apart for a period of time due to their busy adult lives. Clinginess is abnormal.
We can never truly hate or cut our parents out of our lives, no matter how annoying they can be at times. We began with our families, and forgetting them is a sin. If he despises his family for no other reason than that they are annoying, he is unfit to marry you or anyone else.
Marriage is the beginning of a family. How can you expect him to start his own family if he can’t deal with his own former family?
In His Life, He Was Immature:
If he is the type of guy who throws people off after a minor fight or quarrel, whether in friendship or in his relationship with his boss, he is not the right guy to be with. If his interactions with those around him are hurried and he frequently cuts people off, he could easily cut you off one day. Impatience is a bad quality to look for in a potential spouse.
When it comes to his violent nature, every other habit becomes irrelevant. Violence, whether physical or emotional, has no place in love. Run as far away from the man who is violent in his dealings as possible. If you believe you can change him, do so, but do not marry him until he has changed. If you marry a man who cannot control his anger, you will be making the biggest mistake of your life.