These unique and fun methods to express your affection can get his heart racing.
We all get carried away by grand gestures. In a relationship, we might end up attaching too much importance to fancy vacations and expensive outings. But in the long run, it’s the small things that count. Are you wondering how to tell your boyfriend you love them? There are various simple ways that usually mean way more than expensive gifts or grand displays of love. Whether you both have been with each other for a while or have just gotten together, it is not always easy to express your love to your partner. Take the time out to show your boyfriend how much you adore him, so your relationship stays healthy and happy.
Now that you are thinking outside the conventional box, are you looking for some creative ideas? Here are a few simple things you can do to express your affection and admiration for your boo. These gestures will not only strengthen your relationship but also show him how much you care. Take a look!
1. Give Him Your Full Attention
Give your bae your complete undivided attention when he is talking to you. Get away from that pesky phone, put your laptop away, and clear your head of the day’s stress. Give him the same love and attention that you did when you first started dating. Don’t multitask when communicating with him. Make a point to really listen to what he has to say. Whether you both are talking about something meaningful like your partner’s insecurities or some other insignificant nitty-gritty – like his dislike for pineapple on pizzas – you should be listening intently and remembering all the information.
2. Do A Little Something Kind For Him Every Day
Remember, it doesn’t really take a lot to make someone’s day. Surprise him and whip up his favorite dish for dinner. Slip an “I miss you” or “I love you” note into his lunchbox. Give your bae a genuine compliment on how he looks. These kind and loving gestures can prove to him that he matters to you.
3. Anticipate His Needs
This becomes easier if you have spent a lot of time with him and are in a long-term relationship. Try to predict what your significant other wants before he even knows that he needs it. This will come from understanding his values and requirements. These don’t have to be big or expensive things – little gestures can mean a lot. For example, if he has the habit of forgetting to take his towel to the washroom, keep it on the hook for him. Replace his deodorant/ shampoo/ soap before it runs out. Do these charming little things that won’t take up much of your time but will mean a lot to him.
4. Affirm Verbally That You Care About Him
Practice verbally affirming your love, respect, and admiration for your partner on a regular basis. If you are past the initial “I love you” stage, make sure you are saying those three magic words regularly. You may feel like you are just stating the obvious, but it is worth reminding your SO that you love him. If someone hears something repeated over and over again, they are bound to truly believe it. The more you affirm that you care for your partner, the more it will stick with him and make him feel secure in the relationship.
5. Know His Language Of Love
Does he like physical touch, acts of service, acts of kindness, or gifts? Learn these little things about your significant other and love him right. If you notice that he gives you regular kisses on the cheeks or plays with your hair, you can try doing the same things to him. Find ways of showing affection that both of you are comfortable with. This will help strengthen your relationship.
6. Let Him Know You Are Listening
Listen closely when he speaks. Validate your significant other by responding and participating in the conversation. Communication is a very important factor in a relationship. If you don’t agree with them about something, it is fine to let them know about it. However, clamming up or ignoring them when they are trying to communicate with you is a surefire way of driving a wedge between you both or ensuring that he never confides in you again.
7. Make Time For Him, No Matter How Busy You Are
Make an effort to spend quality time together. This is an amazing way to show your significant other that you cherish them. Even if you have to squeeze out time from your hectic schedule, you should do it. Give him your time; it is a small yet meaningful way to show how much you care. Meet up with him on your lunch breaks, stop by his workplace to say hello, or even commute home together – these all are things you can work into your daily schedule. You need to figure out what works for you both and then hang out whenever you can.
8. Make Physical Contact
Remind him daily that you love him by touching him playfully and lovingly – this helps build affection. Good physical contact can also help you stay calm (1). Besides, when there is frequent romantic touching, couples in a relationship feel more secure. Reach out and grab his hand while walking down the streets. Give him a kiss on the cheek before you head off to work every morning.
9. Make Eye Contact
When you make eye contact with your partner when they are speaking to you, it lets them know that you are fully present in the current moment. Knowing that he has your full attention will make him feel seen, loved, and validated.
10. Give Him A Hug
Give him a bear hug! When you give your partner a hug, pull him closer to you. Hugging tightly and pressing your hearts and stomachs together and calms the nervous systems down. Science says so (2)!
11. Tell Him Why He Is Amazing
Tell him why you love him. Saying “I love you” is one of the most amazing things in the world. But telling someone why you love them can be a very romantic and emotionally intense experience. Knowing what actually makes us different from others makes us feel unique and special. Verbalizing why you love your SO can leave a strong positive impact. You can make little notes of all the things you love about him and leave them around the house for him to find. He will find them every few days and feel immensely loved and adored.
12. Get Closer
Lean in. Hold his hand in public. Fluff his hair. All these gestures show that you truly value what you have and that you are totally involved with him, his feelings, and his life. Subtle PDA is a wonderful way of boosting your partner’s ego and making him feel special.
13. Cheer Him
Be his biggest supporter and fan – both in private and in front of your friends and family. Showing support to your partner and giving him genuine compliments makes him feel adored and more confident. Praise his achievements in front of relatives, tell people all the good things he does for you and the community – make him feel seen and loved. He should know that you are aware of all the good qualities he has and that you appreciate them.
14. Share Your Feelings
If something is bothering you, and you are not feeling the love, talk it out with your significant other. Be honest, and don’t criticize him. Instead, express what you need with vulnerability and genuineness.
When we let our guard down, we often see that the other person also gets calmer. Express what you are feeling without getting agitated or grumpy about it. Don’t dwell on past mistakes. Give yourself and your SO the space to learn and grow.
15. Pay Attention To All The Little Things
Notice the small things he says (and some things he doesn’t say), and act on them. If he likes a particular food item, try surprising him by cooking it for him. Did you notice that his shoes are wearing out? Replace them. Has he been too busy at work to catch up on the bills or change the light bulb? Surprise him and do it for him. He will learn to love these little gestures of love you do just for him.
16. Ask Him What He Wants
Too often, we assume that what we desire is what our partner desires. Ask your bae when he feels most loved and what kind of affection he appreciates. While you may think its awkward, asking what your SO prefers takes the confusion and guesswork out of it – and you are definitely more likely to get the response you are hoping for.
17. Be Receptive To His Affection
Showing affection isn’t up to one person — it’s a two-way street. Be receptive to his affection and appreciate his little gestures of love. When we open ourselves to connecting with our partner, it fosters a stronger bond. If he extends his hand, don’t be shy to extend yours. If he wants to cuddle, cuddle him back. Show your love physically, mentally, and spiritually.
18. Accept What He Has To Offer
Most often, we assume that love is all about giving. But that isn’t the case. When one partner keeps on giving, and the other partner keeps on receiving, it creates an imbalance. Appreciate and accept everything he gives you and show him some love, too.
19. Flirt A Little
Just because this person is already a part of your life, it doesn’t mean that you both can’t get all silly and flirty with each other. Not only is flirting a little with your bae fun, but it may even bring you both closer. Want to take it up a notch? Do it in public.
20. Cuddle And Netflix
Even regular, seemingly mundane tasks, such as watching TV, listening to songs, or even drinking coffee, are a great excuse to spend time with each other and show each other some love. Cuddle under a blanket while watching a movie on Netflix – it is pretty much perfect for getting some quality time together. Don’t force this. Find subtle ways to show your affection even in the midst of your busy schedules.
21. Comment “I Love You” On His Social Media Posts
Haven’t you low-key wished someone would openly gush over you on social media? Make his day by letting the universe – and him – know how you love him. Comment on his pictures, leave little heart emojis – or just type “I love you” on his wall. Shout from the metaphorical rooftops to show the world you love your man!
22. Don’t Criticize His Family Or Friends
If there is one thing that is important in a relationship, it is mutual respect. This will show him you care about not hurting his feelings. You can support him when he is going through difficult situations with others, but only if he initiates the conversation. Take your cue from how he is responding to the situation. If you have negative feelings about a family member or a friend of his, express yourself tactfully. However, be careful and considerate in your conversations. When you treat his friends and family with respect, he will also reciprocate by respecting your family and friends.
23. Never Sweat The Small Stuff
Don’t be a nag. Don’t let small things ruffle your feathers. It will not only create unnecessary stress and drama in your relationship but also cause you both to resent each other after a while. Keep your calm and stay composed even in tough situations. Don’t lose your cool easily. It is important to stand up for yourself, but it is equally important to learn when to let go.
It is important to keep reminding your loved ones how much they mean to you to keep the relationship fresh and growing. Your boyfriend, too, deserves an occasional display of affection to sweep them off their feet. And you do not even have to spend a small fortune or plan an elaborate gesture to do it. Something as simple as letting them know you are there for them, hugging them, or graciously receiving their affection can go a long way. So, give your time and attention to let your boyfriend know how much you love them!