Everyone’s end game is to be in a healthy relationship and stay in it forever. But that’s precisely why breakups happen! And also, why you think your current relationship is way better than your previous one.
But ask yourself – is it really better?
Often, it’s easy to get carried away in love and not realize that you might be experiencing the unhealthy kind of it.
However, if you still suspect that you might in an unhealthy relationship, it is best to dig deeper into it. Here are 10 signs that’ll help you identify if you’re in an unhealthy relationship.
1. You Fight All The Damn Time
There’s no end to you guys’ fighting. And it’s not always the serious stuff that gets you two going. No, it could be something as trivial as to whose turn it is to do the dishes. Screaming and threatening matches almost always ensue whenever you guys are at loggerheads with each other. Which is obviously – not healthy.
2. You Hide Stuff From Each Other
There’s not much trust here, and somewhere you know it. And it’s not just you, it’s your beau too. You guys feel the need to lie to each other about who you have been texting or hanging out with because you know the consequences of being honest are going to be far from pretty. If that’s the case, run.
3. It’s Either Your Way Or The Highway
Or your partner’s way or the highway. Whichever it is, it’s not healthy if your relationship is centered around just one person and what they do and don’t want to do. Being in a relationship means being partners, which means doing things together, listening, and compromising. If that’s lacking, you’re in a toxic relationship.
4. You Experience Guilt
And that too for things that are seemingly harmless. For example, it’s a Friday night and you just want to unwind with your friends instead of hanging out with your partner. But you don’t do it because you feel it would be wrong or that your partner won’t allow it. If miscommunication is not the cause and it is really as it is, take it as a sign that your relationship is unhealthy.
5. It’s A One-Sided Relationship
A relationship is a partnership of equals. Being in one means sharing duties, responsibilities, fears, burdens, anxieties, and happiness – all in equal amounts. However, if either one of you treats the relationship as if it’s all about “me, me, me,” then you’re in for trouble. This is not a relationship, just a case of taking advantage of the other partner.
6. Your Partner Demeans You
You grow in a healthy relationship. Your partner helps you realize your dreams, improves you as a person, and values you. And you do the same. But if the converse happens, i.e. your partner demeans you and thinks of your dreams as being silly, you should get out of the relationship as soon as you can.
7. Your Partner Doesn’t Do Things That Matter To You
This is not restricted to the big things, but it spills over to the little things too. For example, if you’ve told your partner that you don’t like shoes on the furniture multiple times but they still do it, you know your partner doesn’t respect you or the things you say.
8. You Guys Are Codependent
This sign is very difficult to identify, but once you do, you’ll never feel the same way again. If both of you feel that you can’t go even a second without talking to each other and must tell each other every single detail of your day as and when it happens, you need to analyze the dynamics of your relationship. Your relationship should not be so binding that it cuts you off from the world. It should rather be an addition to your life than all of it.
9. Your Partner Makes You Insecure
And intentionally so! They do things that do not inspire confidence in them and the love your share. They also make you feel less worthy, thereby adding to your insecurities that already exist. So, if you feel your partner is doing the same, you need to know you deserve better.
10. You Have An Abusive Partner
Be it mentally, physically or emotionally, having an abusive partner is NOT OK. Even if you face a single instance of abuse, it’s best you call it quits and never look back as you never know how it’s going to be in the future.
Relationships may seem like a lot of hard work but they should never be a cause of misery, agony, prolonged stress or any other constantly negative emotion. If that is so, you need to be with someone better.